Pyar ka Punchnama

We are just friends/ I don’t feel that way for you….

They say that women are hard to understand but I say it’s impossible to understand women, I claim it to be a universal statement or a divine truth.

I have read in some book by Durjoy Dutta- if you share 50 sms a day and talk at least 2 hours every day on phone then its love. Yeah! I agree but make sure it’s not a one-sided love. This the age of What’s app, FB and cheaper phone calls, even 500 messages are not a big deal; you can just be sure that your girl has lot of time and when I say lot time, it may point to lot of guys too.

She would say she wants a guy who could play guitar for her; she likes all the stupid love quotes on FB, she finds movies like ramaiya vastavaiya as cute and doesn’t bother to share her sexual fantasies and you’re that guy completely, the perfect guy she looking for but still she would say We are just friends/ I don’t feel that way for you….

Now the big question is what kind of guy she wants? Seriously, you may think some time that even Vishnu taking avatar may not be just enough for her. Giving her a rose whenever you meet, listening to all her stupid chats and tolerating her irritating friends are actually some of the herculean tasks you can do for a girl. Add to that there would be guys who would leave behind everything and travel for days, lying at home and spending a month salary just to meet her but at the end she doesn’t even smile at the efforts.

‘I never said you I love you.’ This is the most common justification she would give but then saying I love you is the only thing matters. You see, it doesn’t matter how many times someone says you those three magical words; it should be how many times it’s meant. You try to make her understand your point and you’re a psycho lover, selfish and don’t understand her side.

Trust me, she is snob and don’t deserve your love. No matter how hard you try but she will find a bald, gap toothed and skinny guy more than you and fall in love, you would be always her just friend. Move on….. 

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The Love Triangle

There are times in our life when we get ourselves caught in the middle of a love triangle. Relationships can be so difficult sometimes, and especially when our social scene resolves so much around intermingling with the opposite sex. It’s very easy to be casually dating and start progressing with two different people. So what should you do? Well it depends on who you are in the triangle. The key point to remember is that love triangles rarely end up with happy endings for all three people. In some cases, it ends with all three being unhappy. Tread lightly and remember these tips.

If you are the one dating two different people:

1 - Make a decision

The first thing you need to do is make a decision on which one you like best and want to be with. Unless both people are okay with being strung along and just casually dating, a choice has to be made. The longer it drags out, the harder it will be since feelings continue to progress in the meantime. The stronger the feelings get over time, the more complex the situation gets.

2 - Cut it off completely with the other person

Once you do make a decision, stick to it. Lingering around that other person or hanging out occasionally not only makes it more likely for something to spark up again, but probably wouldn’t sit very well with the person that you did choose. Don’t cheat by continuing to spend time with both people; it only stretches out your problems even longer.

3 - Take it seriously

The reason that a love triangle is so dangerous is that it’s people’s feelings and emotions at stake. If you want to just casually date different people then don’t get into a relationship in the first place, much less two. Make your intentions known to those you are dating so that there’s no confusion, and it might be possible to sustain a casual dating lifestyle for a while. In the end though, even if you state your intentions clearly, there’s no guarantee that feelings won’t start to come about anyway.

If you are one of the two dating options:

1 - Analyze your happiness

Dating triangles are hard to deal with. Is this person really special enough to go through this for? Even if you do get chosen, will you always think about it in the back of your mind? Is that worth it? Relationships can be hard to deal with, but stacking additional issues on top of the normal things we go through can be too much sometimes. Make sure your feelings for this person are truly genuine and worth pursuing, otherwise you could put yourself through a lot of pain for nothing.

2 - Look for a sign of commitment

Don’t just take the other person’s word that you’re the one they want. They could just as easily be saying that to the other person too. Look for certain signs that you are indeed the chosen one. Do they spend time with you on holidays? What about on their birthday? These are the major moments that we usually have the people we are closest with around us. If you’re not there on those days, maybe you’re not the chosen one after all.

3 - Don’t think it’s now or never

The last thing you should do is think that this is your ultimate chance for love. Whether you are the chosen person or not, take the situation for what it is…the possible start of a relationship. The true hard part is yet to come, as their no guarantee of success when it comes to relationships. All that you are doing now is deciding on who’s going to have that relationship.

Love triangles are stressful on everybody involved, and it’s a lot to deal with. You really have to be sure that the person you’re waiting for is the person you’re supposed to be with in order to make it worth it. It rarely ever is. The best advice actually may be just to back off and let time take it’s course. You might be surprised at who else you find along the way, and how much better it is without the drama in your life.

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She says she’s in love with you on the second date? Careful, she could be desperate to pin you (or anyone) down

She blames you for your inability to commit; but maybe it’s not you, it’s her. It could be because she’s a desperate woman. Such women are intense, needy and unable to keep a man because of their frantic desire for a serious commitment.

How do you know if you are dating one? Check out the signs.

• She’s always hooked

Read her relationship history. Is she a serial monogamist? Does she jump from one relationship to another? It could be because she cannot stand to be alone. Look closer — is one of her exes a junkie rockstar, while another an investment banker, and still another a naturalist?

The warning bells should clang if she doesn’t seem to have a particular type. It means she’ll hook up with anyone rather than stay alone.

• She’s got it planned

She knows what she’s doing on the last Sunday of September, next year. She’s named her future children and even picked their careers. In fact, she’s got a whole life planned, and is just looking for a sperm donor in the form of a husband. As soon as you begin dating, she keeps asking you if you love her and acts like you’ve been together for years. Then she’s making your sister her best friend and ingratiating herself to your family.

A desperate woman is eager to start her well-planned life immediately and will try to pressurize you into a premature commitment.

• Her pets wear clothes

So she has a pet; but watch how she interacts with them. Does she molly-coddle or pamper them execesively. Does she treat them like people? A desperate woman channels her affection and need to control through animals. And also surrounds herself with them to feel loved.

• She’s a doormat

Does she agree with you all the time? Are you suprisingly pleased by how similar you both are? A woman anxious to get hitched will fake compatibility in her rush to the altar. But would you want to date a mirror of your tastes and opinion?

Ø How to get out 

So all the signs point in the direction of the woman you’re with. And you thought all that clingy, needy behaviour was affection. Take this road to freedom.

Ø Take the blame

Disarm her by admitting you can’t commit. Sure that will make you a heartless manipulator, but it will also make you a free man. The more she cries or emotionally blackmails you into staying in the realtionship, the more you shouldn’t be convinced that she’s desperate.

Ø Damage control

After the break-up, explain to your friends and family why you’ve called it off. If she’s really desperate, she might use your people to patch things back up with you or elbow her way into your social circle. Make sure your friends know the truth so that you can keep her away.

Ø Cut off ties

It’s heartless, but these kind of women have neediness down to a clingy art. She’ll repeatedly try and manipulate you back into the relationship. Avoid her calls, change phone numbers if you have to and block her on your Facebook.